Decision-Making for Impulsively Indecisive People

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I have been given two gifts: the gift of indecision, and the gift of impulsiveness. Just kidding. They're not gifts, just character flaws. We've all got 'em. Character flaws, that is. But, if you're like me, you have an interesting blend of such flaws.


On the one hand, I am terribly indecisive. Sometimes it's just because I want to be nice and let other people decide, say, on a movie or restaurant. Other times it's because there are just too many great options. My favorite restaurants are the ones that either I've been to so many times I've tried everything on the menu and know what's the most yummy option, or the ones that have very few menu choices so I don't have to agonize over them for too long.

On the other hand, I am incredibly impulsive. In a bad way. So much jumping on bandwagons and getting excited about ideas and starting before I've set my ducks in a row. And it leads to embarrassment down the line because I didn't really know what I was doing/thinking/talking about in the first place. If only there was a way to put all the words back into my mouth.

So, if you can identify in the least with what I just said, read on because I have brilliant advice for you.

STOP.

Take a deep breath, and just stop. Stop before you jump in. Stop before you let your mind get restless turning over all those options. Stop before you commit to something you're going to change your mind about later. Stop before you get in so deep you can't step back without feeling the need to explain yourself to everyone you previously explained yourself to.

Confused? Yes, I know. Ours is a very confusing lot, because we are double-minded. Now bear with me, because it may seem I'm using the following passage a little out of context. I shall explain myself in a bit.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
James 1:2-8

There are a lot of good bits in here. We're talking developing godly character by persevering through trials, seeking wisdom from the Lord, and being unstable because of doubts. Let's work backwards through this passage.

You and I, the impulsive, indecisive ones, experience a lot of doubt. We ask the Lord for wisdom, but our hearts still flutter among the possibilities. The solution? We must believe. Believe that the Lord will follow through on His promise to give generously! Such grace!

Still, why do we lack wisdom in the first place? We have not let perseverance finish its work, because if we had, we would be mature and full of wisdom. Now, none of us children of God are fully mature because the long road of sanctification doesn't end until we reach glory. However, I think some of us are further along in the process. That often comes with age and years of walking with Christ, but I believe persevering through trials expedites the process.

In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith--of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire--may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.
1 Peter 1:6-7

What are we impulsive types supposed to make of this? Scripture is clear that experiencing trials is the most effective way to learn patience and perseverance, without which we have a deficit in the wisdom department. None of us desire to suffer, but suffering is inevitable. The amazing thing is that God gives such grace in suffering that we are able to mature and become more like Christ through it.

So for those of us who like to jump into things without considering them well and then overthink things without committing to them, there is hope. We can learn to patiently await the wisdom God promises when we ask Him. And then we will no longer be double-minded or unstable in our decision-making because it will be Spirit-driven and grounded in the rest God graciously provides.

Perseverance leads to wisdom which leads to peaceful certainty. And that's good news for us impulsively indecisive people.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Hello! I'm Faith. I'm a verbal processor who wants to love the Lord and love people with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. I write to think and think to write. I don't drink coffee. I am a dogless dog lover. I enjoy hosting large parties in my home, and I enjoy being alone. Join me in looking to Him and pursuing A Radiant Face.

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