...and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God...
Ephesians 5:2

Jealousy is unhealthy when not undergirded by love.

Jealousy with skin is naturally selfish.

Real love is naturally self-less.

It is good and right to be jealous for someone you love because you are jealous for them, not of them.

Preposition time.

  • of (caused by, resulting from) - jealousy caused by something a person possesses, whether material or characteristic or relational
  • for (indicates object, purpose or aim) - jealousy with the object of someone's best interest and well-being because you love them

When you are jealous for someone, you continue to love them at risk of them straying and sinning and hurting you because this love is self-giving.

Even so, you want this beloved to prosper, and you know the most blessed place is near God's heart.

True jealousy is this: that God loved us and gave Himself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to Him.

True jealousy is this: that a friend loved us and gave herself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.

True jealousy is this: that a spouse loved us and gave himself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.

True jealousy is this: that a parent loved us and gave himself or herself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.

Because true jealousy is unselfish love. And all unselfish love is God's love.

How will you change your jealousy of someone to jealousy for them?

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Hello! I'm Faith. I'm a verbal processor who wants to love the Lord and love people with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. I write to think and think to write. I don't drink coffee. I am a dogless dog lover. I enjoy hosting large parties in my home, and I enjoy being alone. Join me in looking to Him and pursuing A Radiant Face.


  1. I used to struggle with jealousy a lot when I was younger. I have a friend who puts it this way. Stop walking in the shadows of other people and create your own light.

  2. Jealousy of others is such a bad thing

  3. This reminds me of James 3:16, "For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice." That selfish jealousy of someone leads our thoughts be controlled by our flesh, instead of taking them captive and making them Holy.
    Appreciate your insight today Faith.

  4. Prepositional teaching, excellent!

  5. We love that God loves us with an everlasting love but we forget that He is a Jealous God

  6. Great job breaking down the hermeneutics of this post! Where did you learn to study the Bible?

    1. Thanks, Katelin! I think I'll have to point to a lifetime of Bible studies and a couple classes in college for that. I'm glad it was helpful and understandable!

  7. This is really good! I love the explanation, especially because people have a hard time understanding how God could be a jealous God. But He is jealous FOR us. I love this!

  8. I love how you used the "for" and "of." I never thought of it that way before. Unselfish love -- that's what I desire.

  9. you truly put a perspective view on the green eyed word of jealousy. Makes me look at it a bit different. Never thought of it in the "for" and "of" aspect thanks for sharing
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