What I said about my friend

My friend was having a rough morning, so she woke me up at 8:30 a.m. (it had been a long night, okay) to ask me a question that had been plaguing her. My answer was all she needed to get straightened out and move on with her day. I was quite honestly surprised by how relieved she was at my very simple answer to her very simple question, and I was a little worried, too.

Later that morning, I got together with another friend. We were chatting about our recent activities, as friends often do, and I mentioned my strange phone call that morning. I didn't have malicious intent toward my other friend, but as soon as I finished my story, I realized I had broken her trust. My in person friend probably now thought my phone friend was a little off her rocker.

It was a bad day. I felt pretty awful, wrestling between thoughts of "Should I feel guilty for breaking her confidence?" or "Should I not feel guilty because I was just talking about my day?" In the end, the answer to the first question was yes, and the second, no.

I heard of a family who would not allow their children to talk about other people, even in a positive way, around the dinner table. They were required to talk about themselves, world events, and ideas only. This not only prevented gossip but trained the children in the art of conversation. I definitely want to implement this concept in our future family. Maybe even now. I'll ask the hubby what he thinks.

Anyway, my conversations with phone friend and in person friend came to mind today while reading Ephesians 5:4: "Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving." Too often I exempt myself from this verse because I don't usually struggle with rude jokes and swearing and bad language. But that foolish talk sandwiched in the middle? What's not foolish about chatting with friends about celebrity fashion or relationships? What's not foolish about constantly talking about our hair, makeup, and clothing issues? What's not foolish about breaking the unspoken but nevertheless understood confidence of a friend's frazzled phone call?

Yes, I have let foolish talk come out of my mouth more often than I care to recount. My words are poison or refreshing water, darkness or light, and I must wield their power carefully, not foolishly. Later in Ephesians 5, Paul admonishes the church to make the most of the time they have. What if I applied that to my conversation? What if I prayed before each encounter with a friend or family member, "Lord, help me use this precious conversation time wisely, building up, encouraging, helping, inspiring, speaking life and joy and fun and goodness into this person, full of the Spirit."?

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Hello! I'm Faith. I'm a verbal processor who wants to love the Lord and love people with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. I write to think and think to write. I don't drink coffee. I am a dogless dog lover. I enjoy hosting large parties in my home, and I enjoy being alone. Join me in looking to Him and pursuing A Radiant Face.


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